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Many people abhor change. It can be messy and uncomfortable. There are lots of good books out there to help people deal with change, such as Spencer Johnson’s “Who Moved My Cheese” where he highlights the fact that we are living in a continually changing world, and your best bet is to learn how to deal with the change. A wise ex-boss of mine summarized the book into a single chart i still have on my wall:

Who Moved My Cheese?

All good stuff, and the book is a great read. William Bridges has some god stuff on change management as well (“Transitions”).And of course there is the whole “Shift Happens” video series if you don’t think things are going to continue changing. 🙂

But this wasn’t really the intent of my post. It’s more about whether you (yes you) need change in your life as part of your own personal development.

Usually I find there are telltale signs that I need a change. I don’t always recognize them right away, and they kind of build a little bit at a time. Here’s my list of things I have noticed when it is time for change for me:

  1. I complain about certain monotonous tasks that didn’t used to bother me as much, but they now bore me to death.
  2. I don’t look forward to work. And I count the days until the weekend.
  3. Focus is lacking. I mean, I already have the attention span of a chicken, but it actually gets worse. (Is that a fire truck?)
  4. I procrastinate on things that I find boring (see 1)
  5. I am grumpier than usual. I tend to be cheery and upbeat but when others start noticing I am not generally like that, it is a sign.
  6. An overwhelming sense of dreams unfulfilled, and that there is a yearning that is not being met. When I am happy and stimulated, I don’t have these thoughts.
  7. Actively looking for something to fill that yearning, but not sure what it is.
  8. I become somewhat envious (in a quiet, Canadian kind of way) of those that are “doing their own art”.

How do you spot that you need a change?

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Po Bronson wrote this book back in 2003. It was the year I left Nortel and was trying to figure out what I wanted to do next. The teasers on the flaps said this book would help, so I rushed out and bought it. The writing was good, and when the writing is good and the subject is of interest, I can devour a book. Devour, I did. But I got to the end, and I was left with a feeling that it hadn’t provided the insight I was looking for. Sure there were great insights, successes and failures. But there wasn’t the direction I was looking for.

Because there is no map.

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